so ????
my first blog!
what made me feel to write a blog?
yes! for te past few months i ve read some quite good blogs.
and i wanted to write one tooo..i m so much lazy in keep it going.
let me see how far i go with. .
cheers !
The first blog is always special..
and so i was put up in random thoughts of wat i can write..
what can make it more special??
F.R.I.E.N.D
yes ! the word tells its all special.
one cannot define a life without friends. There are people who believe that the essence of people can no way affect them and moreover they are not influenced by people. i wonder how s that possible??? . i m basically a person who gets inspired very often , even at the silliest things.I get inspired either by people or thing. In either case, i love the both and i dont expect it back.Expectation to reciprocate to the love u have showered is something illegal!. .
one perfect gentle man told " FRIENDSHIP IS NEITHER SYMMETRIC NOR TRANSITIVE ". i was initially confused what this man is talking all about ?. Symmetric in the sense u can declare some one as your friend but it s unfair to expect the same friend to declare you.Declare in the real sense means an ultimate sharing.
Sometimes i myself feel i m misguided by the word sharing. what is it all about ? it doesnt mean that you have to keep messaging your friend or make him/her updated with what you are doing now. hey! am in canteen,going to a movie today afternoon.. today exam.. pray for me.!! this u can tell to anyone, it doesn't need any special person like a friend to share with.
It's easy to say all these but friendship expects this also.But the real thing is at times when something keeps on disturbing ur heart,when some things cant be shared with everyone, wen something has to find a solution, wen something makes u feel bad,
we ourselves might find the right person . yes! that gets u person where sharing is beyond limits. and we should also chose the right person because thr are people who are happy hearing your problems.
is that all???? can sharing just makes friendship all about ? never. next comes the key factor
UNDERSTANDING!.i ve always heard about understanding beyond words. thr were times i wondered how is it possible?.Even if someone teaches me hardcore, i don't understand.Then how s it about understanding beyond words ?!!
i strongly feel sharing nd understanding are two words that goes together. without sharing , understanding is a big question?. it s quite practical that both are related.it takes time for people to get along with others,get to know what they like nd stuffs like that. "TIME IS THE BEST INVESTMENT".either u spent your time with yourself
or with people whom u cherish always, it ll be best investment forever.if someone spends some time with u,it really means that they value you.I have seen people who quiet often keep boasting " I am busy, have to go with office"," I have no time left,busy 24*7". The quotient you are busy is not a factor to boast, rather you must feel bad that u r busy always." what is life all about without disturbed by the right person???"
TRUST!!!!!. . . trust is automated. it s expected . . its a must ! when someone calls u as a friend , it does mean that i trust you. some times the word TRUST s also misguided. it doesnt simply mean not letting your friends secret out of your feet.
we are not secret holders ! we r also human beings, not autmated though. anyone in such a relationship must know,trust is unintentional.you cant force yourself to be trustworthy., you cant make your friend to believe that u r a person to be trusted.Its something to be felt.
Besides all these there is one unconditional factor LOVE, which just s next to nothing. it doesn't expect ur friend to be trust worthy,neither understanding nor caring. Its a magical feeling, one can never explain it.but everyone will always feel it in their life. if not , they miss something in their life.
we were some three crazy friends in hostel. we ve always wondered about this magical feeling?? and no doubt we had such magical feeling and we formulated the "SENDER RECEIVER THEORY!".It states that "sender shows an unconditional love to the receiver,the receiver is overloaded. response time is quite high and by the time the receiver decides to respond, receiver forgets how to respond.The receiver comes to the state of inexpressiveness.but the sender receives a protocol that they have enough love".
when receivers were asked about it , they told its a feeling to be expressed or narrated by words, instead felt by heaart.
Friendship doesn't expect the degree of reciprocation , but . . . . . .
we knew wat is all above is something to be taken individual point of view.one may expect understanding, others don't.One just expects his/her friend to be caring. life is all about expectation and it is unfair to force your expectation on others. and rather friendship is a relationship and you cant formulate certain factors to be your friend???. it s some thing that has to happen . . friendship is an accident. . happening. . event. . .
while i was writing al these.. it made me think how ll life be without friends??
To be frank, i couldnt think of one such life.i ve seen people who strongly belief that relationships are least important.To all those people, life is very short. you cant make the best time unless you are put into a place where you cherish others.Happiness is what you create. "HAPPINESS IS A DECISION".
live life and only people in your life can make it worth!
